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Christina Waggaman's avatar

Alex, one of the reasons I subscribe to your newsletter is because you seem genuinely rooted in good faith --- you seem to want to get to the bottom of what's going on with the intense polarization occuring in the US right right now, and are willing to take on a myriad of different perspectives to do so (as long as they too have something to offer in good faith). I really appreciate your compassionate approach to talking about this topic.

One thing this article got me thinking about as someone who went to private schools for the children of elites, is that I definitely felt a lot cultural pressure on me to grow up to be someone influential (which is an interesting definition of elite I am still chewing on). This pressure followed all the way into graduate school for public health and then into activism and organizing, where I ending up burning out. This isn't the whole story of what motivated me to spend a lot of my time in activism (I went through a lot of personal hardship that also motivated it), but this cultural pressure from growing up around elites definitely had an impact.

Something I realized after burning out, was that I am not good at being influential and I don't think I have any business trying to be. In fact I am kind of a nerd that just likes doing my nerdy shit and spending time with close friends and family. And so I just let the pressure to do "something" with my life drop. This doesn't mean I'm not interested in being engaged in the world, but rather instead focused on participating in things within my city, building a happy family, and doing my best within my specific line of work. At first I felt guilty about this, but now I'm much more content.

I've realized after moving away from the US, that the desire to just have kind of a mundane and locally-focused middle class life is so much more common here in Norway. There are much fewer rich people in Scandinavia, and most middle class people aren't trying as hard to become elites, they seem pretty content to remain where they are. So I am wondering if there is something more specific about the US vs other western countries, where there exists a stronger social pressure to seek status? I think economic insecurity and wealth disparity is probably driving most of it, but I am wondering if has something more specifically to do with the private school systems in the US and academic competition? Too much pressure on kids who are good at school to compete and "be someone" maybe? There aren't really as many elite primary schools or universities in Norway, most people just go to public school and then public university or trade school. Also there's not even that huge salary discrepancy between someone with a PhD and someone who graduated from trade school, so people seem less motivated by money and more motivated by whatever interests them.

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Gibrán X. Rivera's avatar

This piece is both brilliant and courageous. It is consonant with lots of my thinking and doing over the last number of years.

I became a person of color at the age of 12. When my parents moved us from Puerto Rico to Massachusetts in order to join a still puertorican fundamentalist religious community.

Reading The Autobiography of Malcolm X at the age of 15 “woke” me up to the discourse of race and gave me powerful language to contend with my experience.

This blend of racialized left ideology and my fundamentalist religious experience shaped my life and my career.

Until quite recently, I have been immersed in work as a facilitator in social movement spaces.

But growth, thought and spiritual development placed me in conflict with the “woke” “movement fundamentalism” of the space.

At the spiritual level I experience it as a pseudo-religious ideology that actually justifies and encourages resentment. Poison for the human soul.

I am not blind to economic AND racial injustice. I know them in my bones. But I could not be more clear that the elite approach to contend with these is not something that could possibly work. There is a sense of superiority at its very core.

An additional thing to note is the way in which too many of the still too few working class people of color that make it to and through university are actually initiated into the ways of the elite. We are the folks doing the dance of encouraging and manipulating social justice ideology “on behalf” of our people while also keeping our recently earned social status.

I often remind people I work with that my neighbors, in the poor and working class Black Boston neighborhood where I live, would look at me like an alien if I started talking about intersectionality instead of befriending them, talking about jobs, personal, even spiritual concerns, and social service needs.

Tuesday, my soon to be wife, and I, teach a class called “What Should White People Do?” Which is specifically designed as an alternative to the dominant discourse on DEI and Racial Justice.

The class is followed by an ongoing “Racial Justice Community of Practice” for people working in the field of philanthropy, a central tool for the social justice elite you describe here.

We will be bringing this piece you wrote into our next session.

Deeply grateful for what you are up to!

gibranrivera.com

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